We’re often told to be mindful about how we act or what we think. But what does mindfulness actually mean?
Mindfulness is defined as being fully present and aware of where we are and what we’re doing. It’s a very simple concept, and yet, most of us do not practice it. We tend to be wrapped up in our “monkey minds,” listening to the constant chatter, wallowing in what was and making plans for the future. When we do this, we forget to experience what is around us, we forget to experience life itself, which only takes place in the present.
Whenever we can stop, take a breath, and create some space in that moment, we can bring ourselves into the present and notice our lives: the environment around us, the feelings and thoughts that come up.
One of the key concepts of mindfulness is that we notice without judgment. When we judge ourselves – our emotions, or other people and situations – we cause ourselves suffering. When we can notice things without judgment, we can let go of the negative emotions that cause us pain, the ones that prevent us from living a fulfilled and joyful life. We learn to notice these things and accept them, surrender to them, and let them go.
There are many ways to nurture mindfulness. You can use your breath, consciously breathing slowly in and out through your nose, being aware of each breath, one breath at a time. You can take time to observe something, study the details, come into the moment and be with that object exclusively. You can immerse yourself in an activity you love, such as a sport or yoga, or just simply walking. You can take time to appreciate something or someone in your life and think about all the things you love about that thing or person.
Most important of all, you can just be aware. That’s the best place to start. Awareness is powerful and so very simple. It can become a daily habit, practiced one breath at a time, one moment at a time, an easy practice that will change your life.
